Resolve to be Grateful for Grandparents and to give Elders the Respect they deserve 2day

Maybe your grandparents live next door, or maybe they live in another country. Maybe you have four grandparents or maybe only one. But so many young people don’t really appreciate their own grandparents and the elders of the world.

In some parts of the world, the elders of the society are regarded with the utmost respect – for their knowledge and their experience. They are consulted on all important matters and young people go to them for guidance.
In other places, older people are treated as unimportant, as second-class citizens. They are forgotten; their views don’t count.
But wherever you live, how YOU think of your grandparents and other older people is up to YOU.

Why should we respect older people?
-BECAUSE some of the world’s most amazing people are over 70
Nelson Mandela, 90 years old, was 71 when he was released from his 27-year imprisonment. He was 75 when he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize. On his 89th birthday Mandela announced the formation of a new group, The Elders. The group is made up of world leaders who work together, using their wisdom and experience, towards solutions for global problems. Other members are Desmond Tutu, Jimmy Carter and Kofi Annan.

-BECAUSE grandparents do a great job even when they shouldn’t have to do it
Millions of grandparents across the world are the primary carers for their orphaned grandchildren. These grandparents are grieving for the loss of their own sons and daughters. They thought their days of raising young children were over, and should be enjoying their retirement. Yet they take on the responsibility of child care without complaint and give these children as much love as they can.

-BECAUSE older means more experienced
If you get a job for a company and start off in a low position, you understand that the people in positions above you, who have been there for many years, are more experienced than you, and you respect them for that and hope to learn from them.
Well, it should be the same between the younger and older generations of society. Your grandparents and the elders of your society were seeing and experiencing things 50 years before you were. Just think of all the things they have seen and experienced that you have only read about!

-BECAUSE people are people, regardless of age
How would you describe yourself, or your best friend? Clever, funny, creative, a chatterbox? Crazy about cars or soccer-mad? As a young person, there are so many attributes and characteristics that make you who you are, and it is exactly the same for every older person. Ten older people are not all the same just because they are all ‘old’ – they are all unique with individual interests, hobbies and talents. But if you don’t take the time to get to know your grandparents and the other older people in your community, you won’t find out who they really are.

I hope my blog has made you think about how the elders of your society, and of every society in the world, are individuals and are deserving of respect from younger people. Remember, some of the coolest, bravest and most interesting people on this planet are over 70!


Interesting websites:
http://www.sponsoragrandparent.org.uk/ - help support a grandparent
http://www.theelders.org/ - Nelson Mandela's group of Global Elders for a Global community

Resolve to work hard today.

Work! Oh, how we all love to dodge work, I was playing the devil’s advocate recently in a discussion with my mother on women who choose to marry into money- not for love, but simply to be “kept” (as my mother would put it) and she attributed it to laziness! In her opinion, everyone should work hard (out of the home) to make a name for themselves and anything else is laziness! So I said to her, “well, if you’re rich- it’s not being lazy, it’s called being priviledged and if you’re poor, then it’s laziness.” And as a result I coined the term “privilazia”, to describe chronic laziness as a result of poverty or excessive wealth. The point being- we’re all lazy and most of the time (unless you’re a workaholic) we HATE work.



When I say “hate work” I don’t merely mean the job you do, but whatever activity that will produce sweat on your brow and mental or physical strain. As much as we would like to avoid anything that we consider to be boring, like putting a garage in order or do a overdue report. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO GROW WITHOUT WORK. It’s impossible to expand yourself- if you don’t leave your comfort zone- if you don’t do the things you hate to do- but have to be done. There comes a time when you have to take responsibility for your life and decide to move in the direction you’d like it go in and often that will require some unpleasant work one way or another.

Stop avoiding it- whatever you have been putting off- do it and do it now! If you don’t it won’t go away- it will simply pile up until it becomes an even great issue to deal with than it would have been from the beginning.

Resolve to do some hard work today. Trust me, you’ll feel like a better person at the end of the day.

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Resolve not to take every single opportunity you get.

There are tons of choices in life, some are very basic, from what you will have for breakfast, to more important choices like who you’ll marry or what company you will work for. All the choices we make, will impact our lives in one way or another- because let’s face it, if you decide to have yogurt for breakfast, you’re keeping some someone in work in some dairy company. A point to note, Americans stopped buying toys (which may seem like a totally insignificant thing to some) and factories in China closed down- putting thousands of people out of work and out of food and unable to afford the basis necessities of life. Yes, every choice you make counts, especially the choices you don’t have to make.

I won’t bore you with the stats on how many ads the average person is bombarded with everyday, but I will point out that in the same way you don’t automatically buy everything that’s advertised to you- you shouldn’t take every single opportunity you are offered- even if it’s on a silver platter. Most people these days barely have time to live life, between work, church, social gatherings, sports, children’s events and lots of other thing- YET, they find themselves buying into chances to put more on their plate. More activities, more schemes, more policies to buy, more active roles in the lives of friends and family members… BASICALLY it all amounts to MORE! MORE! MORE! AND MORE- MORE!

Are you like that? Have you found yourself unable to resist adding more to your plate? Buying more, giving more, taking more- wanting more- it never comes to an end. There are endless things that can fill your life- but your capacity to handle MORE will some day come to an end and where will you be? A place filled with bits and pieces of everything, without anything solid to hold up for all the stress and anxiety that adding more to your life brings.

Even if it is a really good idea- hold back for a moment and THINK about it and you might see that- just like drinking out of the different bottles in the inspiring picture for the day- it might do you any good.

Resolve not to take every opportunity you get. Trust me, it will save you a lot of trouble in the future.

N.C Ronia

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I resolve not to let the world drive me crazy today.

Today is a Monday and true to form, it is a blue Monday. I started it off right, but now I feel like tearing my hair out with frustration, things are not going the way I’d like, I spilt my tea, spent ages in a line, had to leave home late while waiting for someone, I could go on and on and on, but instead I choose not to lose my mind, or my patience or my cool… why? Because even if I do lose my mind, the world will keep spinning, so it’s pointless to let the world drive you mad, when the world won’t care that you’re mad.

Take three deep breaths, calm down and you’ll feel better.

Resolve not to let the world drive you crazy today. Trust me, you’ll feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

Resolve to add some color to your life.

A lot of people leave bland and boring lives, they follow the same routines and have the same habits every single day of their lives and they never try anything new with their live, but just drag their feet from one mundane day to the next.

And their wardrobes often reflect their lives, today, pick something bright out of the closet- smile at someone today, do a little dance to start the day- yell, really loudly- play with your kids- buy yourself a big red lollypop that will make your tongue as red as blood!

Why? To add some color to your life, to brighten up your day, try it this weekend.

Resolve to add some color to your life 2day, trust me you will feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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I resolve to let go of what's holding me back today.

Gosh it feels good to be free! I recently let go of a dead horse relationship that I had been holding onto for over three years and boy do I feel good!!! One of my favorite motivational speakers and preachers often says "If the horse has been dead 10 years- it's time to dismount!!!" And she is right! How often do we hold of things that are holding us back from something better?

We hold onto things for different reasons, maybe we hold onto them because they are comfortable and familiar and even though we know that letting go of them will take us to a higher level, we still seem reluctant to let go. It could be a relationship like it was for me- or rather should I say "feelings" about a certain person, or it could be a job, it could be a way of living life, a habit, a tradition that you instinctively know is holding you back, it's not adding anything more to your life and in fact it seems to be sapping what little good is left in whatever situation it is.

LET GO!!! Because the truth is- until you let go, you won't be able to move on to whatever else is in your future- whatever better things is out there… it's sort of like how in "The Matrix" Neo had to let go of his preconceived notions of speed and gravity to take the first "jump." And NO the point of this example isn't to tell you that you'll fall flat on your face if let go of something. We all have to let go of things at some point, usually because we've outgrown that stage in our lives and if we don't let go- then how will we ever go further? Imagine if you were still clinging to your first grade teacher up to this day? Or that best friend you had in the fourth grade or your first boyfriend or girlfriend, or your first minimum wage job? Or whatever!!! You wouldn't grow.

Sadly a whole lot of people don't grow, because they are too afraid to let go! They cling to lousy situations and sadly sometimes lousy and often abusive people. Whatever reason you have for holding on, be it fear, laziness or just complacency- over come them today.

Sit down for a moment and think of what you need to let go of and let go of it.

BUT!!! This is not an excuse for you to just give up on hard things because they are hard. The point is for you to get rid of things and people that are toxic!!! If it's not toxic and you're just looking for a way out because of laziness- Don't do it- you'll regret it!

Resolve to let go of what's holding you back today, trust me, you will feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to be smart with your money

Resolve2day…
To sort out your finances and be a good saver

Hi, I’m Clare, a friend of N.C. Ronia’s from England and I am Resolve2day’s guest blogger today!
The topic I’ve chosen is: Resolve to be a good saver – I hope the following tips will show you that it is a lot easier to manage your money than you thought.

I can’t tell you how you can get rich, and you don’t need me to tell you that the way to save more money is to spend less, because everyone knows that. But I am going to give you a few tips on how smart management of your money can help you keep more of it! These methods are ones I use myself, and they work for me.

1. Set yourself a budget – this is the best way to stop yourself ‘frittering’ your money away. Work out how much you earn per week/month, how much of this you need to save and spend on bills and necessities, and then how much you have left to spend on yourself. Ultimately there’s no one but yourself to stop you buying that pair of shoes that you can’t really afford, but setting limits really does help with the self-discipline.

2. Write it down – making a note of what you buy lets you see exactly where your money is going. This means you don’t have those moments when you look in your wallet and think: “Where did it all go?” Personally I think that one of the most effective ways of turning yourself from a reckless spender into a good saver is to simply keep tabs on your own spending.

3. Do the maths – a good way of stopping yourself buying things you don’t really need is to think about what you could spend the money on if you saved. Each individual dollar/pula/pound that you spend may not seem like much, but it all adds up. For example, maybe you buy a coffee every weekday morning for $2.50. If you stopped doing this and made your own coffee at home or work, you would save $50 a month and $600 a year! That’s a pretty decent amount to save, or it could pay for a holiday or go towards a car. In short, that $600 could go to much better use than an over-priced coffee.

4. Practice delayed gratification – that is, waiting for something you want. The opposite is instant gratification, i.e. getting what you want NOW. Psychologists think that the ability to practice delayed gratification is linked to intelligence – that is, intelligent people are better at waiting for (working over a period of time to obtain) the things they want, and less intelligent people are less able to wait. The thing about delayed/instant gratification is that it usually means a choice between having something good now or having something GREAT later. This fits in with number (3) in this list.

5. Don’t buy without comparing prices – it is pretty annoying when you buy something and then see the same CD/jacket/book somewhere else at a cheaper price. This won’t happen if you compare prices. This is particularly easy to do online. I often buy DVDs from Amazon, Play.com or HMV.com (these are UK-available sites) and I always check the price of a DVD on all three sites first and buy it from wherever it is cheapest. There are also loads of comparison sites that do the work for you. You just type in the product you want to buy and the internet compares loads of online stores and tells you which is cheapest. As for when you are actually out at the shops, some bookshops, DVD stores, music stores etc. are much cheaper than others. Don’t spend more than you need to if there’s a shop round the corner where you can buy the same product for less.


To summarise, I think that being AWARE of your own spending is one of the most effective ways of spending LESS and saving MORE. When you keep an eye on your finances it doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t get to buy the things you want, it just means you give a second thought to opening your wallet and are more conscious of what all the small amounts add up to. I hope some of this is helpful to you and I wish you happy saving!

Clare

Resolve to set some goals today.

Looking back, I guess this should have been the first post, considering that this blog is all about making little daily resolutions that will leave you feeling like a better person at the end of the day. I think we have all hear about why setting goals is important, but just in case you have been living on another planet and have never turned on the TV at some point and seen some motivational speaker tattling about it- let me inform you as the resident GURU on this blog as to why you should set goals…



What is a goal? Do we really have to go there? For the sake of a few, I will venture there- a goal is a dream, ambition or place you want to achieve or get to in your life. We all have dreams, be it the sort that everyone knows about like “I have to quit my job! I hate it! It stinks” or the sort that you keep buried deep in your heart, for fear of being ridiculed or discouraged, like to “win the Comrades Marathon in South Africa”

The problem with life is- everyone knows what they want, but few people ever move towards what they want, because either they are lazy and would rather complain about life or because… they don’t know how to move towards their dreams… this is where goal setting comes in. Setting goals;

1. Forces you to think about where it is exactly that you want to go and in the process, you might discover that- you don’t really want to go where you think you want to go.
2. It helps you plan out, how you will get to where you want to be from where you are.
3. It will reveal to you if you have the necessary elements to achieve what you want to achieve and if you don’t then maybe you can find another goal to pursue OR find a way to get the necessary elements to achieve the goal.
4. Just doing the above things will build up your self-esteem and courage.
5. It is a big fat reminder that you are supposed to be doing something or going somewhere… something about making conscious decisions to d something makes them stick in your mind and nag you at the worst times… like a month after New Year’s :-)

There Ladies and gentlemen, are my reasons for setting goals and I have to admit they are very good ones. I’m sorry, but this blog has found me in a slightly vain temperament today, so let me not torture you anymore and recommend to you a few books of choice that should make the goal setting process less mystical than it seems for the average mortal.

The Power of Focus and Think and grow rich (Even if you don’t want to be rich [there are actually people on earth that don’t want this] you can still use the goal setting method for another goals)

Resolve to set some goals today. Trust me, you will feel like a better person at the end of the day, there is something empowering about setting goals and in way starting to take charge of your life once more.

N.C Ronia

Resolve to get enough sleep today!!!

I love sleep, like I have mentioned in a previous blog post and without any definitive research of any sort, I am positively certain that everyone else on the face of the planet loves sleep as well… don’t ask me how- it’s just a gut instinct, but that doesn’t mean we get enough of it. Just like any other relationship we have, our relationships with our beloved beds can often be turbulent and rocky and yes- even though we love to sleep we might find ourselves not getting enough of it!!!

Most adults need between 7 and 8 hours of sleep (and I secretly think that I’m special and need 9-10.) Yet, we don’t often get enough sleep, simply because we’ve convince ourselves that to rech all the goals we want to achieve in life, we have to sacrifice some things- including sleep… so as we try to make our schedules leaner and meaner, the first thing to be cut out is sleep!!! Which is all wrong, because sleep is as important to our lives as water- we need enough sleep to function at the top of our game.

Here are Three reasons why I think you get enough sleep.

• It will increase the amount of active tasks you can complete when you’re awake. Everyone should know this, when you don’t get enough sleep you feel and act like a vegetable all day long- so get enough sleep so that you can hop about like Bambi all day long… (In other words sleep it makes you bright eyed and bushy tailed and ready to take on the world.)
• It will make you a more pleasant person to be around… people who are sleep deprived are often grumpy and then become plain vicious after a massive dose of caffeine (trust me- I didn’t get enough sleep last night and right now I want to snap someone’s head off.)
• And apparently not getting enough sleep is linked to higher diabetes and obesity, high blood-pressure and heart disease.

Do yourself a favor and get some sleep this weekend… 7-8 hours of blissful uninterrupted sleep! Not in front of the TV, not at your desk, not on the plane to wherever- but in your bed… put a “Do not disturb or you will die!!!” sign on your door and make sure everyone gets it! Do whatever it takes to shut the world out for 8 hours (or 9-10 if you’re special like me) even if it means switching off your cellphone- yes- I know that may sound suicidal to some of you- but you gotta do it.

Here’s a great link to more information on sleep and why you need to sleep enough, what sleep is and tips on how to have a goodnight’s sleep.

Resolve to get enough sleep 2day. Trust me, you will feel like a better person the next morning!!!

N.C Ronia

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Recommended Reading

These are books I suggest you read (in no particular order);

The purpose driven life by Rick Warren

Anything by the Brother's Grimm

The power of Focus By Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Les Hewitt

The Bible

(preferrably for the girls) Anne of Green Gables By L.M. Montgomery

(preferrably for the guys) Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain

Lord of the flies by William Golding

Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill

How to influence people and win friends by Dale Carnegie

Macbeth by William Shakespeare.

Becoming a person of influence by John Maxwell

The university of success by Og Mandino

(For Men) The secrets men keep. by Stephen Arterburn

(For young women) Kissed the girls and made them cry, by Lisa Bevere

These are just a few of the books that I have personally read and found to be just outstanding. And I recommend them all and I'm not getting paid to do it.

Happy Reading

N.C Ronia

Resolve to read a good book today. You'll be surprised at what you find.

I am a reader, I have been a reader since I was a child. I didn't have an easy childhood, so I took refuge in the worlds that I was transported to while in a book. I have an amazing imagination and often after I'd finished reading a book- I'd continue the story in my mind- especially if I didn't like the ending. And though I didn't realize it at the time. A lot of the books I read, shaped my mind and the way I thought even as I was a child. Through it all I soaked in knowledge about everything and anything- depending on what the book was about.

The first reason why you should read a book today, is because; authors take the time to research and write what they think and know of the world around them. So in effect when you read a book- you're benefiting from someone else's experience- without having to go through the sometimes-nasty-things they had to go through to get that experience.

Secondly, it give you a different point of view of seeing the world and life (and hopefully a better point of view) you could be struggling to find a solution to a problem and then when you read a book- you look at it from a different point of view and you realize that your solution was right in front of you.

Thirdly, reading distracts you, and at some point we all need to be distracted and forget the outside world for just a few hours.

The book you read could be about anything and everything really. I read all sorts of books, mystery, romance (sometimes), motivational, instructional and sometimes I read fairytales- the brothers Grimm are an excellent choice. And I do that because sometimes I get overwhelmed by adult content- by the complexities of life and I just need to read a book that will make me laugh and ease me. There's some nostalgically calming effect in reading children's stories and most of the time a lot of good lessons in them as well.

Resolve2day to read a book. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to put things in order today.

Unless you went to a super strict boarding school or where in the military- like most people you’re bound to be predisposed to having some mess in your life. Be it a messy room, desk, drawer- whatever, wherever- we all make messes and sometimes we leave them there, not because we’re pigs, but because we might be too lazy or busy to clean it up. BUT at some point, even the laziest or busiest person has to put things in order!

I recently found out that I am of a sanguine-choleric temperament, having more sanguine than choleric. This explained a lot, especially why my living space is often disorganized- or like I prefer to put it- an organized mess. It may look like a wreck to someone else, but I know exactly where everything is, though I have to admit, putting things in order would take a whole lot of frustration out of finding something that isn’t in the organized pile of mess it’s supposed to be in.

So I can tell you from experience that not everyone is predisposed to being tidy- but I think everyone should take the time to tidy things up, why? For a variety of reasons;

- You’ll find a whole lot of stuff that you thought was gone for good and it was simply in some pile of mess.
- You’ll feel a whole lot less guilty without a big pile of mess accusing you of being a lazy good for nothing.
- It will make living with you more comfortable for other people, and please don’t email me back and say that you shouldn’t have to change yourself for someone else- sometimes you do! Out of respect!
- You’ll feel a great sense of achievement and it might spur you on tackle bigger messes.
- You can promise yourself a reward for all your hard work and there’s nothing quite like a hard earned reward.
- You might get more work done in a tidier environment than a messy one.

I could go on and on forever- okay, that’s not true- cleaning messes is dull and boring and apart from the above reasons I honestly can’t think of any other reasons for getting your stuff in order, apart from the fact that IT HAS TO BE DONE!!! So;

Resolve to get things in order 2day. Trust me, you will feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to kill smoking, before it kills you.

I'm not going to tell you how bad it is for you, how it will ruin your health and send you to your grave earlier than you'd like. You know it all, you've heard it all. So;

1. Make the decision to quit right now.

2. Throw your cigarettes away, right now

3. Throw your matches and lighters away,

4. Make an appointment with your doctor to discuss treatment options.

5. Get a patch, get a pill, whatever your doctor recommends.

6. Set a reward for yourself as an incentive to quit smoking and it should
be something that can be purchased with the money you save from not feeding
your habit.

7. Find a picture or photo to remind you of the reward you'll give yourself
for quitting.

8. Find a picture or photo of the person you want to be after you've quit for
good, it could be a picture of a healthy person, a picture of a mountain you
want to be able to climb without coughing and wheezing.

9. Tell kids you're quitting- because they will remind you if they see you
light up and you'll feel like a total loser if a kid reminds you you're
supposed to be quitting.

10. Tell everyone you're quitting and give them the right to sabotage you if
they find a pack anywhere.

11. Get a friend to quit with you- so you have support.

12. If you don't have a friend to help you out- join a support group. Don't be
ashamed, the shame doesn't compare to the joy of healthy living.

13. Don't quit.

14. If you slip up- a genuine slip up, then don't bash yourself up and don't
hide it. Tell your support group and other people you have trusted to keep
you accountable and CONTINUE with this journey.

Resolve2day to quit smoking. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to be brave today, no matter what.

Today I did a little research, I had been having some symptoms for years and I decided that I would try and find out what this was all about and when I did, I wished I hadn't. I might or might not be sick- it may or may not be curable- depending on if it's what I think it maybe. I haven't gone to the doctor yet and in the mean time- thanks to the rich bank of knowledge available online I have diagnosed myself and until a few hours ago I was already bemoaning my fate. The cons of easily available knowledge. Well first I should tell you that it's not the sort of thing that will kill me- or disable me- just make me very uncomfortable like it has secretly been doing for years.

Now the question put forward to me when I realized this was whether to panic or not- as a human being panic is the first emotion, fear competes closely with that. But I told myself not to panic- because it's seems to be a manageable condition- with medication and the second was whether I should tell anyone about it. Go figure- I'd written a blog about telling someone how one really feels. So before mass hysteria paralysed me I called my step-mother, who is a doctor and I told her my suspicions and she listened and advised me to go see a doctor and get tested and while I was talking to her- I felt like bursting into tears- but I didn't because that would do me no good. Then I called my dad and spoke to him and casually mentioned that I had this problem and I tried to seem okay about it- but when he asked me why I didn't sound so good- I wanted to cry- but I didn't and when I hung up I did cry. And the day flew by because of what I was going through- I didn't even have lunch, until I was about to leave the office.

How do I feel now? Calm. For those of you who don't know- I'm a Christian and so thus a whole lot of the way I live my life is influenced by my beliefs. So when I did calm down my first reaction was "God is faithful. This is just an opportunity for him to work in my life." And that's still how I feel right now. I have this unreal sense of peace. Even if I wanted to lose my head right now- I couldn't.

I haven't scheduled the appointment with the doctor yet, I'm still waiting for my financial situation to clear up and then go for everything and find out. If I have what I suspect- so be it- I need a good fight to test my character and if I don't have it- that'll be a relief. But either way I trust the one who's always looked out for me.

I resolved to be brave 2day. And I do feel like a better person at the end. Do the same, Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve not to give up on love 2day.

I am a poet, although I haven't written a poem in a while, and over years I have been able to track the periods of heartbreak just by reflecting on some of the sentimental stuff that came out of those times. Some might call it nonsense (I sometimes do) or some may sympathize with me… after all, we all know what it's like to be stabbed in the heart by someone we love.

We have all had our hearts torn out, if you haven't yet experienced this, God bless you! You're so lucky. But most people reading this, I suppose are just like me and have at some point looked down at their feet and there seen shreds of their most precious thing.

I don't think there's anything quite as painful or hopeless as a broken heart. We all react to it differently, depending on our characters, some people shrug it off and pretend that it doesn't really matter and that love is a waste of time anyway. Others shed unashamed tears and require a full Calvary of girlfriends to make through each day, others just bottle it up and deal with it silently. And some much to the delight of onlookers turn their wrath on the heartbreaking party. I personally spend the first 24 hours of heartbreak shrugging it off and declaring that it doesn't matter to me and then EXACTLY 24 hours later, I take a dive and while longing to call in the girlfriends, I silently lick my wounds because I'm too proud and stingy to share my misery.

While there's nothing wrong with reacting to broken heart, what is important to consider is HOW we let that experience of heartbreak shape our view of love. And truth be told, heartbreak can either make you better or crush you, like all pain in our lives.

Love is a wonderful thing, a gift that everyone has the right to experience, but so often after we've been burnt by someone or a relationship- we act as if love burnt us and reject LOVE… and that's not right. It's tragic and though some may think that there is some kind of power in not having one's heart open to love and all the complexities of it- there isn't. Only the power to make you weak. A heart that isn't open to love is weak, simply because there's strength in love- in knowing that there is someone who cares about you more than they do about the average Tom, Dick and Harry out on the street. There's something to look forward to when you have love in your life, something to inspire you, something to make you smile and laugh about.

Don't reject love, because someone rejected you. Love doesn't reject people, it doesn't burn people, it doesn't hurt people… don't blame love for the things that others have done. Be willing to move past your hurt and believe in it again. Don't deny yourself the right to love and be loved back. I'm not saying that if you're hurt you should just get over it and move on to the next relationship, just that be willing to see past the hurt to a time in the future where it will be possible to enjoy that good thing called love.

Resolve not to give up on love 2day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve not to make anyone feel like a fool 2day.

Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, so I have heard. I don't believe that- maybe it's because I spent a lot of my verbal life with a sarcastic sword in my mouth. Yes, I have to sadly confess that I have not always been as considerate with the flow of words coming from my mouth as I am now. It took me a while to realize that nasty sarcasm can tear people down. It didn't matter to me that everyone (even myself) sometimes asks silly questions and that I didn't have to respond with a smart answer and make someone else feel like a total fool.

If you are a sarcastic person, I'm not saying that you have to quit being who you are, because I have strong sarcastic trait in my own personality. BUT what is important is to carefully measure what you do with your sarcasm, sometimes it can be funny and everyone can laugh it off, other times it can be hurtful to someone else. So, while I personally understand that it may not be initially easy to hold back that quick tongue, every time you speak, THINK about what you're about to say and who you are about to say it to and ask yourself these questions;

1. Will it hurt the feels of the person I am saying it to?
2. Will it embarrass the person I'm responding to?
3. Is it really necessary? Will it help in anyway?
4. Will it make me look like a fool or a nasty person?

Based on those answers you can respond. If you do not get your sarcasm under control you could run the risk of alienating yourself, people don't usually want to hang out with people that say mean things and people are reluctant to confide in people that spew out unnecessary verbal sewage. Watch that mouth.

Resolve not to make anyone feel like a fool 2day. Trust me, you'll feel like a better person at the end of the day.

NC Ronia

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Resolve not to be foolish today.

The wisest man on earth once said
"My son do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgement and discretion; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. Then you will go your way in safety and your foot will not stumble."

I think we can all agree that wisdom is very important and that being foolish is- a foolish thing to be. And I don't think there has ever been a society like ours where knowledge is freely available to those who want it. So if being foolish is foolish then everyone should aim to be wise.

Do you?

Why aren't you seeking wisdom? Are you too busy not to be foolish? Doesn't that just sound- foolish? So today resolve to learn something- resolve to discover a gem that might just change your life and your world if you apply it.

How do you do it?

Read a book, buy inspirational teachings, watch a documentary, think back in your life- the things that older people have said to you… All of these things could be sources of unimaginable insight. Why not benefit from the experiences that others have had, instead of being dead set on figuring it all out on your own? Why go through the pain and hardship of it all when the lessons are available in a paperback or tape in the library for FREE? Why fight with co-workers instead of watching a documentary on how lionesses apply teamwork? Why be so set on ruining your marriage instead of listening to great aunt Margret's tips?

Of course not everything you hear, read or watch is going to be good advice. But you should at least be open to hearing advice. We all know someone who things they know it all- so before they even listen to what you're saying- they've already got a reason for not listening to it.

In closing, the wisest man on earth once said "The wise store up knowledge, but the mouth of a fool invites ruin." YOU DON'T KNOW IT ALL. Don't be foolish… seek wisdom.

Resources I advise you to check out- include;

The book of Proverbs in the bible.
Even if you aren't a believer, you will benefit from the wisdom in Solomon's words. I don't think there's a question earth which can't be fundamentally answered in Proverbs. There is also a podcast that goes through the book of proverbs in a year in itunes called … and the link to the website that hosts it is…
The art of war by Sun Tzu. you can get a free copy on gutenburg.org at the following link.
National Geographic and Animal planet if possible watch a documentary on how Eagles choose their mates if you're having marriage problems, for teamwork- watch the lionesses strut their stuff and when it comes to adaptability you may be interested in finding a documentary on albino animals.
Your mom-father-grandmother-grandfather-and anyone else old enough to say "When I was younger…" you'd be surprised at what good advice comes from these people and because they have a vested interest in you- so they love you. And if there's anyone who you should listen to- it's someone who loves you.
Podcasts, I there are tons of gems in itunes, personally I subscribe to, Joyce Meyer, Daily Audio Bible, Joel Osteen, Bigg Success, Zig Ziglar, Sales guy's quick and dirty tips, Real secrets of the top 20%, Internet business mastery, business week. Take your pick, there's unlimited knowledge on itunes and other poscast sites.

Resolve2day not to be foolish. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.


N.C Ronia.

Resolve to spend a quiet moment with God today.

Firstly, I'd like to tell anyone reading this, that if you are not a believer, I am not doing this to offend you- but the reason you read this blog is because my words- my experience of the world has some sort of value. So if I have offended you- I apologize. But I am what I am.

I don't personally know who I would be, if it wasn't for my relationship with God. I would angry, vengeful, bitter and I would do whatever I wanted without regard for anyone else. I would be broken- because my early years of life were broken years- painful years and I don't think I would have made it without knowing there was someone out there- who loved me and understood because they could see into the most secret place in my heart.

Often times we can find ourselves with problems that seem beyond us and if we were able to ask people who committed suicide they would probably say that their problems seemed beyond what they or anyone else could do to fix. And one of the reasons I love rely on God and trusting him is because- I know he is bigger than anything I can ever face. It's sort of like how on a playground you may feel secure knowing your big brother is near by- you may not see him, but you know that if the play ground bully gets too close- you can call out and he’ll come to your rescue.

In life there is so much uncertainty and in my life I've come to realize that the only insurance policy I can have is a relationship with God- because that can't be taken away from me. My home, my family, my savings can all be ripped away- but my relationship with God can't be taken away.

That's why it's important to maintain that relationship and so often we find ourselves so busy that we don't have the time to maintain the special relationship with God that can support and carry us through most of life's storms.

Talk to him- say anything- He'll listen to anything, no fancy words are needed, no special postures- I spend most of my time talking to him as I walk. And I usually jump in by saying- "Good morning Papa" or sometimes I just start talking (trust me he knows when what you have to say is for him) I usually talk about my day, the way I feel about life, people, my fears, my hopes, my mistakes- everything.

So resolve to spend a quiet moment with God 2day. Trust me you'll feel like a much better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to fight animal abuse today

When I began writing this blog entry- I didn't know quite what to say- because I couldn't quite express the anger I feel about this issue. I am an animal lover and I am a dog lover. And I remember my grandmother once thinking I was nuts because I said I would never marry anyone who didn't like dogs. A home without a big ball of fur trampling over you and treating you like a rock star when you get home- simply isn't a home (in my opinion.) And the fact that some people actually abuse animals just makes me sick! Sick to the pit of my stomach and I am ashamed to say that I have let an animal in need down because I was too afraid to step out and do something about it. Because everyone said that it was none of my business and that I shouldn't ruin the relationship our family had with the family that was letting their sickly puppy grow weak and die instead of taking it to the SPCA or to the vet. All it needed was some love- but they didn't want it- if they had- they would have tried and it could have been saved. I gave them as much advice as I could so that they could try and save "Alex" but they didn't want to and finally he died and I cried.

Cried because it had all been so senseless.

Cried because I'd been too afraid to stand up.

Cried for Alex because he would have been a great dog- the sort that loyally defended the family.

Cried because the poor thing was brave to the very end.

What can you do?
-Donate money to the SPCA. Just google "SPCA" and the name of your area, on their website there should be a place for you to support and donate some money.
-If you want to go the extra mile, you can donate old blankets or rags, or toys your own pet doesn't need to your nearest SPCA.
-Show a little extra love to the pet you have right now. Sometimes we get so busy we don't have time to play with our own pets, or give them a good hug and roll around with them. Do it and do it now.

Resolve to fight animal abuse today. Trust me, you will feel like a much better person at the end of the day.

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N.C Ronia.

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Resolve to face your mountain 2day.

Have you ever noticed a huge mess- let’s say a room that needs to be cleaned and you look around and you have no idea where to start? And it seems to overwhelm you just thinking about it? We all have huge messes in our lives that need cleaning up and sometimes we just don’t know where to start and the task seems IMPOSSIBLE to face- maybe it’s even a painful task to do- like confronting someone or ending a relationship. But it has to be done. We have to face our mountains.

Recently I looked at a vital part of my life and I thought to myself “What an awful mess!” Having felt sorry for myself long enough and finally deciding that I would start working on that area I looked at that mountain and I felt afraid. I was afraid because facing the mountain would mean overcoming the issues surrounding that mountain. Issues from the past, the present and the certainty that if I didn’t face this mountain, that I would regret it in the future.

So what did I do? The first step was to decide that I WAS GOING TO FACE THIS MOUNTAIN. Then I started to tell myself that I could do it! To tell myself that it wasn’t impossible and the more I told myself that it wasn’t impossible the more I felt like it was POSSIBLE! I know it won’t be pleasant, I’m basically going to be going through a process of tearing my character apart and finding the junk that needs to go so that I can become the person I want to become. A lot of that junk is going to be feelings that I have for certain people and the influence that certain people have over me.

So as you can gather, the mountain I have to face has a lot to do with relationships- the core of every person’s existence! And the most difficult of areas to handle, it’s literally a minefield and YET at the top of that mountain is going to be a healthier and happier me. Some of the people I’m going to let go of, are people I DON’T WANT TO LET GO OF, in fact half the time I try to convince myself that I don’t really need to do this, so as you can imagine this is not very easy for me… not at all. But if I am to get to where I want to be- I need to get rid of the excess weight or it will hold me back.

I don’t know what your mountain is- it could be a career mountain, a relationship mountain or a health mountain. But when you’re at the bottom looking at that distant peak and sometimes when you can’t even see the peak- don’t get discouraged ESPECIALLY if this isn’t your first time confronting this mountain. Forget the past failures and IMAGINE what it will feel like to be at the top- to conquer the mountain- to be on top of your world and keep that picture in your mind through the tough things.

Resolve to face your mountain 2day. Trust me, you’ll feel like a better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve not to watch the news first thing today

We've all heard the phrase "woke up on the wrong side of the bed" and I'm sure we've all used it at least once in our lives- when talking about someone else with a deep frown or snappy tongue. Or we've all found ourselves speaking to someone mid morning telling them about what a bad day we've had, starting with snubbing a toe, coffee spilt, a traffic jam or the meeting we were late for. The point is, there are so many things that can pile up early enough on a day to make it go "sour" and leave you with a bitter taste in your mouth and one of these things is watching the news.

The way you start your day greatly affects the way your day goes, if you hear good news, you'll have a bounce in your step- and when you hear bad news it almost seems to make your feet drag along the ground.

And the news headlines are full of bad news! It's true and we're addicted to it- every morning most of us wake up and hear bad news. Every morning I try my best to get out of the house before someone switches on the TV for an early morning dose of terror and pessimism. But what does watching the news first thing in the morning help? Nothing really- except feed that part of us that subconsciously expects the world to go to hell and something negative to happen to us in life.

How about starting your day off with something optimistic- like a prayer if you are a praying person, a motivational program or podcast. Your favourite music, something that makes you laugh and smile and then when your day is moving to a good beat then catch the news. I listen to the news when I get home at six pm. That's when I ask whoever has been obsessing about the headlines "So what's happening in our rotten world today? Oh… a terrorist attack in some part of the world. Man charged with rape and murder…"

I think you get the drift- I'm not saying don't watch the news and that what's on the news is not important- because it is! To fight the many evils in the world we need to be informed about them, but that shouldn't be what you greet your day. I'm not even saying that you should watch the news at 6pm like I do- but you could start your day off with something that motivates you and then immediately switch on the news- that way something else has framed your view of life and the world before you start hearing all the negative things.

Resolve2day to not start your day with the news. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to be happy no matter what today.

So many people set milestones for happiness. They promise themselves that they will be happy when they have a new car, a new house, a better job, a better other half and a whole list of things that never quite seem to have an end. As soon as one milestone is reached, another is added and they find themselves living from one milestone to the other.

STOP!!!

If that’s what you’re doing, JUST STOP IT! It’s a waste of time- not that reaching milestones isn’t important- but getting to them isn’t supposed to be a measure of the beginning and end of your happiness. Rather choose to be happy wherever you are, even if it seems like there isn’t much to be happy about.

With the world economy going down the drain it seems like more than ever we have a reason to be morose and walk around like the living dead- but it doesn’t add anything to you. If anything it robs you of what you need most at this time in history- optimism. If you would just make the choice to be Happy on purpose- to even force yourself to laugh- even if other people think you’re barking mad, it will make you feel better and it might give you the clarity you need to figure out how to sort some of the problems you have. Just think- when are you most creative or persistent- when you feel encouraged and lifted. Walking around with a cloud over your head won’t make your life better- it will just keep you broody while life goes on it’s merry way.

Resolve to be happy 2day. Fake it. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to fight against disablism 2day.

What is the measure of a person? What if I told you that you could be measured and valued by the society you live in on scales that have nothing to do with your own choosing. That you could be judged based on things which are totally out of your control and that society could decide whether you were valuable or not, simply because fate, chance or the unfortunate circumstances of life have made you different from most people. What if I told you that some people might look down on you and make fun of you. When you need a hand up, people would feel sorry for you and want to give you a hand down. That sometimes people may be afraid to even look you in the eye because of what they would see and how they would make you feel. How would you feel if I told you that in some parts of the world you might be an outcast- just because you're different? Not that you're any less, you're just different.

I guess if I told you this you would feel angry, hurt and want to fight it- fight this threat to your self-value, to your self-esteem, to your basic right to be respected for who you are. You'd rally your friends together, write letters to politicians and appear on Oprah. You'd do this simply because- surely in a free and civilized society like ours- such intolerance would certainly not be tolerated and yet- how many of us, are actually out there protesting against disablism?

DISABL-ISM is the discrimination against people that are disabled.

How many of us, take the time to do something to forward the cause of disabled people? It’s not just about blogging or marching through streets- what about the simple things? What about just being kind to a disabled person by, helping them cross the road, holding the door open for them, carrying their shopping bags or just looking them in the eye and smiling at them. Offering a kind word. Treating them the way you would treat anyone else. And you wouldn't do this because you feel sorry for them- while empathy is a good thing- pity stinks!

How about finding it in your heart to help the next disabled person you see? Just making up your mind to help them live the best life they can. It doesn't require you to go around looking for disabled people to help (though that would be a great thing to do) it just means that the next time you do encounter them- you try to do something for them and ask if they need help in that moment. What will you lose? Five minutes? What's five minutes- when in those few minutes you can help someone believe in people again- in the goodness in the hearts of man?

When I was in high school I used to visit a local hospital and play with some of the orphans there. One of them was a deaf little boy- when I arrived he would just light up and even though he couldn’t hear what I said, we would just draw and scribble and play and have a good time. He was just like any other little boy- just different- but he loved sugar just like every other kid, he was naughty just like every other kid and he needed love just like any other kid. Being deaf didn't make him less, it just made him different.

Resolve to champion the cause of those who aren't less than you or I, simply different- BUT NO LESS 2day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve not to sleep in today.

"Just five more minutes!" How many times has the alarm clock gone off and you're put it on snooze and thought- just five more minutes! I know I have and there was once a time in my life when I set 3 different alarms- because I was sure to switch each one off before I FINALLY dragged myself out of bed. Glorious, glorious- so glorious SLEEP!

I love to sleep! I just love my bed! It's probably on the top ten list of my favorite hangouts on the face of this planet! Ah yes- good things happen on my bed, I dream on my bed, I relax on my bed… I play on my bed, I read on my bed- I could go and on and I'm sure you could too. BUT unfortunately this favorite hangout of yours and mine has some major draw-backs, mainly that it's way too comfortable and way to tempting to part from. And thus- the more time we spend there- enjoying the comforts of this hangout- the less we do of anything else.

Sleep is good- no doubt about it and in a future blog I will be focusing on people who (amazingly) don't sleep enough. But too much sleep will certainly rob you of tons of opportunities to get closer to that BIG goal you have in your life (whatever it may be.) The wisest man that ever lived said;

How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep?
A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding
of the hands to rest- and POVERTY will
come to you like a thief and scarcity like
an armed man.

They clearly didn't call him the wisest for no reason- after all isn't this how it happens- we just want to sleep a little bit longer- just rest for a little while and then the time we waste instead of working allows poverty to sneak up on us. Poverty may be in terms of your relationships with other people, your work, your goals- all the things that are important to you become poor and scarce and though it happened little by little- the effects of it feel sudden and brutal- like an armed man.

Resolve not to sleep in 2day. Trust me, you'll feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to congratulate someone today.

Laugh with those who laugh. How often have we heard about something nice that has happened to a friend or an acquaintance and have not cared enough or simply forgotten to call them? Way too many times- I'm guilty of this myself and it needs to be corrected. When good things happen to all of us, we love to tell people about it- maybe to boast or just to spread the joy, so we should make an effort to reward the good things that happen in peoples lives- by congratulating them. Their good news may not matter to you, it may not affect you in anyway or it could even be insignificant to you, but it matters to them greatly. And celebrating (no matter how long after the fact) with someone will set you apart as a person who really values others- by valuing what's important to them and that's not a bad reputation to have.

Not only will it enhance whatever relationship you have with that person, but it will leave you feeling good about yourself- because any time you do anything to invest in someone's life, be it financially, emotionally or in any other way will change you on the inside. It will open you up more to understanding and valuing people.

DO NOT do this just to score points with someone. They'll eventually see through you- but before you do it, search yourself inside for genuine joy for the good thing that has happened in their lives. If they've just had a baby- remember what it was like for you to be a new parent and all the enthusiasm you had- then call them. Or if they've just gotten a new job- think about the last time you were excited about getting a job and translate that into genuine excitement when you talk to them.

Resolve2day to congratulate someone. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.


N.C Ronia


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Resolve not to care about who doesn’t like you 2day

There are some people who will never like you, not because of something you have done, something you've said or anything you can possibly imagine. But simply because you are you. So what? Today I came in contact with one such person- in fact I come in contact with them everyday, once in a while the person does or says something to embarrass me- but not in a way you can call them out on, though. You know- those little offenses that can sneak by and you just have to swallow because if you make a big deal out of them then you'll be the person who is overreacting.

Usually I stay out of their way and then today they decided to butt into a conversation- someone was correcting me about something I didn't even know about and they stuck their foot in and said "I said that already."
The truth was- the person hadn't told me that before, they'd simply stated their disapproval of something I did and didn't say I wasn't to do it again. So being human, I wanted to say "No you didn't tell me and who do you think you are to correct me? Are you my friend? Do you ever speak to me other than greeting me in the morning? What gives you the right to correct me- just because it's not according to your personal preference?"

BUT I held back- simply because it would be my word against that persons and I'm not as rooted in the society as they are. I didn't defend myself and said, "I didn't know" then left.

I'm not going to tell you that it's easy to deal with someone not liking you- because even the most hardened heart does ache from rejection and it hurts when someone doesn't like you for no apparent reason. But what can you do about? Waste your time trying to win a battle that may never be won? Every human being is excellent at building walls- the sort that are invisible and in some cases may be more painful to crash into that physical walls.

The choice that every person has to make is whether to worry about things they can do nothing about? If there is a real problem, if there is a legit reason someone may have for not liking you- then deal with it head on, choosing to ignore it would be foolish. But, if you can't possibly comprehend why someone hates you and you've done nothing wrong- then forget it. What will it help you to focus on the unimportant people in your life that don't care about you? If they do happen to be an important person in your society and they make you miserable, then leave. Personally this person means nothing major to me- so their cold shoulder generally has little effect on my life.

Resolve2day to not care about who dislikes you. Trust me you'll feel like a better person at the end of the day.

N.C Ronia

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Resolve to buy someone lunch 2day.

The world economy seems to have gone to hell and people are tightening their belts. Maybe you're in a better financial position than someone else. Show them you care by buying them lunch- AS LONG AS IT IS APPROPRIATE- don't take your secretary out to lunch under your wife's nose- that sort of thing is distasteful. If the person with a need is a woman, send her to lunch with someone else and pay for it.

That sort of gesture can encourage someone in these difficult times. You may not even know what a treat you may be giving that person. It could be the first time in ages that they are having something nice to eat. Maybe they've been on a low budget grocery list.

If you- yourself are struggling financially then you can take them out for something small, like a take out, nothing fancy. But just to show that you care about them or even to reward them for something they've done for you. I once got some money and a good friend was around and I said "let me buy you lunch" so we went to lunch and ate good food and laughed and enjoyed ourselves. Afterwards he was so grateful and it made me feel good that I had treated one of my friends, spontaneously- not because he'd done something for me. And another time I bought another friend lunch because he had shared his lunch with me every day in the office. If he saw that I didn't have lunch he would share one of his sandwiches with me and when I got a chance I returned the favour a little bit more- because he'd been kind to me when my budget was tight.

The key here though, as with anything else you do for anyone, isn't to make them owe you something- it's not to buy something from them. You can't do this kind of thing with ulterior motives, because they'll spot it a mile away- but be genuine, do it because you really do care about that person and value the role they play in your life.

HOW ABOUT DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT BY choosing someone you don’t usually hang out with. I think we'd all be more comfortable taking a friend to lunch- but widen your boundaries a bit and reach out to someone who maybe people don't really notice and you'd be surprised, you may have a good time and make a new friend in the process. If you honestly can't afford to buy them lunch, then get a doughnut and a cup of coffee- it works just as well. But make sure to schedule it ahead of time with them- so that you don't get discouraged if you turn up with a great offer and they are busy at the time or have other plans.

Resolve2day to buy someone lunch. Trust me, you’ll feel like a much better person at the end of this day.

N.C Ronia

Special thanks to Ove Tøpfer for letting me use his photograph.
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