I am a poet, although I haven't written a poem in a while, and over years I have been able to track the periods of heartbreak just by reflecting on some of the sentimental stuff that came out of those times. Some might call it nonsense (I sometimes do) or some may sympathize with me… after all, we all know what it's like to be stabbed in the heart by someone we love.
We have all had our hearts torn out, if you haven't yet experienced this, God bless you! You're so lucky. But most people reading this, I suppose are just like me and have at some point looked down at their feet and there seen shreds of their most precious thing.
I don't think there's anything quite as painful or hopeless as a broken heart. We all react to it differently, depending on our characters, some people shrug it off and pretend that it doesn't really matter and that love is a waste of time anyway. Others shed unashamed tears and require a full Calvary of girlfriends to make through each day, others just bottle it up and deal with it silently. And some much to the delight of onlookers turn their wrath on the heartbreaking party. I personally spend the first 24 hours of heartbreak shrugging it off and declaring that it doesn't matter to me and then EXACTLY 24 hours later, I take a dive and while longing to call in the girlfriends, I silently lick my wounds because I'm too proud and stingy to share my misery.
While there's nothing wrong with reacting to broken heart, what is important to consider is HOW we let that experience of heartbreak shape our view of love. And truth be told, heartbreak can either make you better or crush you, like all pain in our lives.
Love is a wonderful thing, a gift that everyone has the right to experience, but so often after we've been burnt by someone or a relationship- we act as if love burnt us and reject LOVE… and that's not right. It's tragic and though some may think that there is some kind of power in not having one's heart open to love and all the complexities of it- there isn't. Only the power to make you weak. A heart that isn't open to love is weak, simply because there's strength in love- in knowing that there is someone who cares about you more than they do about the average Tom, Dick and Harry out on the street. There's something to look forward to when you have love in your life, something to inspire you, something to make you smile and laugh about.
Don't reject love, because someone rejected you. Love doesn't reject people, it doesn't burn people, it doesn't hurt people… don't blame love for the things that others have done. Be willing to move past your hurt and believe in it again. Don't deny yourself the right to love and be loved back. I'm not saying that if you're hurt you should just get over it and move on to the next relationship, just that be willing to see past the hurt to a time in the future where it will be possible to enjoy that good thing called love.
Resolve not to give up on love 2day.
N.C Ronia
Special thanks to Michael Lorenzo for making the photograph available for use. Click on his name to go to the profile on www.scx.hu
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